"Consequently, we must prepare ourselves, as unconditional love doesn’t come cheap. And the “price” that we’ll ultimately pay to both know and sustain that love is change."
Track 1: What is Love?
"Love will show us variations of itself through good and bad times, through success and through struggle. It’s simply a matter of acknowledging the change and holding on to see it through (when it’s worthy of that particular effort). And holding on to a love that welcomes our embrace of it will require that we sacrifice for it, be willing to give to it, and accept it amidst its show of beauty and imperfection."
Track 2: Getting to Know You
"...but if taken seriously, has the potential to prevent future heartache, headache, divorce proceedings, restraining orders, or vengeful interactions, by forcing us to analyze the difference between what really appears before us and what we simply hope to see. "
Track 3: Fairy Tales/Simple Things
"We dream of weddings and knights in shining armor for as long as we can remember, but what happens when he dons a whistle instead of iron ore; a plunger instead of a javelin? What excuse do we make when he’s less than handsome or is a little shorter than we’d like?"
Track 4: The Love Experience
"We are invaluably educated during this period; discovering what makes loving worthwhile, what makes it fail, and gaining an idea of what makes it successful so that it may be sustained."
"...it is our willingness (or unwillingness) to hold on that truly tests what are hearts are made of; what measures our relationship’s worth. It is when we’re made uncomfortable; when things are no longer easy and we’re cornered against the ropes that we have to channel our strength to choose love; and for quite a few of us, loss."
"I can’t understand why we (as women) fuel this erroneous belief that love makes us so overwhelmingly in-tuned with our men that we become one person, with one opinion, and one mind. Ladies, this is NOT TRUE! And it most certainly gets in the way of our coupled growth. I mean, it definitely sounds beautiful; it sounds poetic, but it’s fanatical to think this way."
"I know that letting him go may make us feel powerless, but there is strength in the ability to walk away; maturity in the choice to walk away and possibility in our recognition of his uselessness."
Track 5: Love is Blind
"You Can Be Right or You Can be Married" author Dana Adam Shapiro says that, 'Unconditional love is for children and pets. In romantic relationships, you have to earn it-and re-earn it, all the time,' which if you really think about it, couldn't be closer to the truth. Because for many of us, falling in love is an especially euphoric experience; one that often softens our hearts and shifts our focus. It promotes our optimism and occupies our thoughts, but in many cases suspends our common sense. Ok; so, just so we're clear; love, should at no point, be an open invitation for barefaced stupidity, although many of us have allowed it to be."
"But let’s be honest, while it may be commendable for couples to “start over,” or forgive and forget, the truth of the matter is that that’s easier said than done; but you try again because you remember love. But just as sure as you remember the passion that exists between the two of you, you begin to envision the passion that took place between the two of them."
"The emotional scars left to heal around the remnants of our broken hearts act as reminders of both the hurt we’ve endured and the strength that we never knew we were capable of demonstrating; teaching us to prepare for and recognize what leads to our relationship’s close calls and uncomfortable encounters."
Dump His Ass
"Be mindful too that: “I’m comfortable” is not an excuse for abuse. If holding onto him, means holding on to pain, it’s time to dump his ass. If he acts without care or concern for how we feel—girl, dump his ass. If there is distrust in his intentions, his “truth” and/or his sincerity, you got it—DUMP HIS ASS."
Track 6: Good Morning Heartache/Love T.K.O
"...what we all have to realize is that not everyone we tell our secrets to will keep those secrets, just as every man we choose to love or entrust our heart to won’t choose to properly take care of it; taking the time to guard it and protect it, as if it were priceless. That man, we don’t want. That man, we don’t need. So why do so many of us hold onto men that are of no value to us?"
Track 7: After the Love is Gone/A Woman's Worth
"When we promote truth over illusion, we gain a genuine sense of happiness. It is dishonesty, not truth that holds us hostage. Truth, like love, liberates us. So our honesty is essential, especially when attempting to sustain or sever a romantic relationship."
Track 8: Bag Lady
"We must be confident in our abilities and comfortable in our skin. And if no one else loves us, we must love us; which means no one defines who we are but us."
Track 9: Previous Cats/ U Remind Me
"Many good men are pushed away from us when we choose to dwell. They can’t understand why we’d choose to focus on our past hurts when we could be focusing on our future possibilities. Sometimes the only thing that hinders us in relationships is us; as we sometimes get in the way of our own happiness by choosing to make idiotic (or illogical) decisions."
Track 10: Try Again/Open My Heart
"Many of us are experts at choosing the wrong types of men. And after experiencing failed relationship after failed relationship, we often become disillusioned with the possibility of finding true love. But love can be available to us all if we look for it in the right places, desire it for the right reasons, and recognize its ability to change our lives."
The Intermission: Love Is Where You Find It/A Beautiful Surprise
"After love is lost, we start to display reclusive behaviors, not wanting to be bothered; afraid to 'dance,' hesitant to speak, and often avoiding social activities. Not to say that we’re guaranteed to find “him” the minute we leave the porch, but we have to leave the porch if we hope to find him."
Track 11: Can U Help Me/When Will I See You Smile Again?
"It’s not that real love can’t be found multiple times; it’s just that love, in its legitimacy, isn’t something we’re usually so quick to abandon in pursuit of another love; therefore, it likely never becomes an option for us to voluntarily surrender what we feel so amazingly blessed to have and know..."
Track 12: It's Alright/Bruised But Not Broken
"New relationships come and will eventually be acted upon, at which point we’ll have to come to a few realizations. The first realization is that it is alright to fall in love again; to embrace a new relationship, love another man, and allow ourselves to be loved again. The next realization should be an understanding that we are in a new situation, which means we have to start over, not hold on to what used to be. But the realization that must be most completely comprehended is our understanding that neither life nor the person we’ve chosen to love is perfect (there will most certainly be some rocky waves, even amidst the smooth sailing), as '[We] come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly' (Sam Keen)."
Track 13: My Time
"Life brings people into our circles that will hurt us, love us, and teach us. Purposefully, each of these entities plays a role in shaping our love mentality and in outlining our love experience. Without resistance, we don’t appreciate submission. Without hurt, we can’t wholly recognize pleasure. In the same breath, love serves as our motivation, our most supreme aspiration; in that it gives us something to look forward to, something to strive for, and something to protect. Love and hurt both collectively and thoroughly teach us; in a way, all of life’s experiences do. However, love or the loss of it, grabs our attention more readily than most of life’s other lessons; teaching us to be patient, teaching us to be grateful, teaching us to be observant, but most completely, teaching us to be faithful."
"...for those who are familiar with what I am about to write; just think of this portion of my commentary as a reminder. But for those who’ve never heard of or have decided never to abide by the following instructions, these are truly words to live by; inherited advice that should be transitioned into permanent behavior, and passed on to other women, both youthful and seasoned, as a tool to help us get over disappointment and get through life a little easier than we currently are."
Track 14: Let's Take Our Time
"It’s nice to get gifts, make love under a setting sun, express our desires by the firelight, and share all of our most treasured secrets over a bottle of wine, but we have time to share and give, if the relationship is a substantive one. At minimum, a moderate amount of sharing and giving is necessary to sustain any relationship. However, my advice would be: not to give it all away at once."
Track 15: The Closer I Get to You/Giving You the Best that I Got
"Nationally-acclaimed writer, Katherine Anne Porter once said, 'Love must be learned, and learned again. There’s no end to it;' meaning no matter how acquainted we become with love, we must continually work at improving upon it."
Track 16: It's All For You
"Men value loyalty and thrive when they know they have the love and support of their woman. If we’re on the same page with our men, it’s easier to be in relationships with them."
"Ladies, if you trust a man, you can’t be afraid to follow him. Therefore, loving him, means that you’re comfortable, trusting, and secure enough to be led by him. And while we do possess our own strengths, men love to feel like they are “handling their business,” are greatly contributing, and are able to manage the most essential things in life. Consequently, we must allow him to be a man."
Track 17: Spend My Life/Where Would I Be?
"...if you find yourself sharing the same space as your soul mate, I’d hope that you’re also able to share your forever."
"We simply have to learn that it is alright to wait for love; not in our being passive, but in our being intelligent, unafraid, and observant—that way, we’re able to make a calculated decision, as opposed to a starry-eyed one; one that persuades us to settle for the inadequate, when we deserve so much more."