Just A Thought (What Love AIN'T):

In case you need a little help with the definition, a dysfunctional relationship is one:
(1) Filled with heartache;
(2) Filled with constant confusion;
(3) Filled with inconsistency;
(4) Filled with games;
(5) Filled with lies;
(6) Filled with uncertainty;
(7) Filled with distrust; 
(8) Filled with disrespect;
(9) Lacking open and honest dialogue; 
(10) Lacking attachment;
(11) Lacking any desired growth;
(12) Lacking reciprocity;
(13) Lacking commitment;
(14) Driven by manipulation;
(15) Strangled by hands;
(16) Strangled by guilt;
(17) Held hostage by fear;
(18) Unaware of its co-dependence;
(19) Unwilling to grow; and 
(20) Settling for sadness.
Love: Possible was written with matters of the heart in mind---the journey that we all take in our growth and discovery of love and relationships; what drives us and binds us; what shakes us and breaks us; and all that we experience, for better and for worse. But ultimately, these words were meant to highlight the roles we play in our own drama, and the need to take the reins and own up to what we allow to happen to our hearts. We don't all have the same definitions of love. We aren't all attracted to the same things or the same people. But in spite of all that love is, there must be an understanding on each of our parts to know what it IS NOT. The attributes you see listed above ARE NOT LOVE!!!! So stop making excuses for them or calling them by names other than what they are. These instances are related to fear, low self-esteem, desperation, and disrespect, but self-love desires more than that.‪#‎FeedIt‬.‪#‎GiveYourHeartWhatItWants‬!!!! ‪#‎Love‬!!!!
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible