Just A Thought (TBT; 2014):

The man who's best for your heart, and best for your life is nice to you, not because he wants something FROM you, but because he wants something WITH you. You've got to mean something to him, not just be in possession of something that encourages his CONDITIONAL presence. Whether some women want to acknowledge it or not, some MALES (whose shit ain't quite so together) will attach themselves to you as a means of survival. He needs a place to sleep so he pretends to love you.He needs a safe place to store his shit, so he fills your head with nonsense, or he needs a permanent address to send his mail to, so he'll lay that pipe for good measure. ‪#‎JiggaWhat‬ Ladies, please do not allow yourselves to become victims of such circumstances. If he lives with you, but isn't nice to you (even though you're feeding his ass), you're probably who I'm talking to. If he pays the occasional bill to make you feel like he's pulling his weight, I'm surely talking to you. And if he's a part-time lover and only shows up when he needs things, girlfriend...you can best believe you're who I'm talking to. STOP cosigning on these fools' car loans. STOP applying for credit cards that you don't use but happen to pay the statements for, or having your tenant history run for apartments that you don't even have the fucking keys to. ‪#‎YeahISaidIt‬ We want to be loved so badly and desired so much that we sign our self-worth away to the highest bidder, or in this case, the biggest loser. STOP IT!!!!!! ‪#‎Now‬‪ #‎MakeHimProveHisLove‬ ‪#‎YouCantBeAfraidToMatterToHim‬ ‪#‎TBT‬ #2014
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible