Ladies, believe me when I tell you: there’s no reward in loving him greatly, unless he’s willing to love us back that way. And there’s no glory or acclaim that will come from putting our heart and soul into a man who could care less about our presence. We hear over and over again that we don’t give to receive, and that love is love’s reward. But if we’re dumb enough to love a man wholeheartedly without ever having been convinced of any reason to, there will be no one else around to blame but ourselves, no other tears to dry but our own, and no other heart to mend but the one we’ve allowed him to break.
Love and loyalty mean very little to men who don’t love us in return. Breaking our back, busting our humps, and going out of our way won’t help us to win him over, if he’s indifferent about us being there from the start. The only thing that those virtues will ever spell out in his book are that we’re willing to let him play, or don’t have a problem waiting for him to love us back, no matter how long it takes. [And uh; that would be a “hell no” for 600 Alex!!!] So if we know it isn’t love, we must not allow ourselves to waste time in it. #TBT #2013
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible
Track 5: Love is Blind
Pages | 78-79