Just A Thought (Take Charge):

Ladies, at what point will we recognize the power we possess? Every woman reading these words is in control of her destiny. Every woman reading these words is in control of her relationship. She dictates whether she stays or goes; what is acceptable and unacceptable; what hurts her and what heals her; who loves her and who leaves her; what breaks her and what builds her. This is ALL dictated by who she allows in her head, her bed, her space, and her heart. She controls who she entertains. She controls who she believes and what she believes. So no, I don't blame men for all of her troubles, because ‪#‎SheMakesChoices‬!!! He may very well be a variable, but us ladies...we're the drivers; the "allowers," the enablers, the pacifiers, and the gatekeepers. I don't want to hear anything more about what he's done to you unless the story begins with "what you've done to you." Nothing happens that we don't allow. If your legs work, there is no excuse. If your ears work, there is no excuse. If your eyes, work, dammit girl....I don't want to hear the bullshit. ‪#‎WomanUp‬; you're in charge. It's about time that you act like it.
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible