Just A Thought (Choose Wisely):

If we're gonna be honest about it: when men find the woman they KNOW they want to be with; the woman they fall in love with, their only hope is that she'll stay the same, because he loves her the way she is (although, I'm sure that the porn industry and/or World Star Hip-Hop will assure a few changes between you). Women on the other hand, find a man, and whether he's everything she wants, or everything she doesn't, there are things she wants to fix. Women often fall in love with the potential of a man, not the reality of him. And that backfires over and over again. Obviously, some changes are coming: growing older is inevitable, and body types change; opinions too. But don't fall for an asshole, stupidly believing that he'll one day become your wonderful, responsible, faithful husband. Choose a man because you're happy with him, comfortable with him. But if who he is, is not what you want, not what you need, and not what you're willing to tolerate, work with someone who is, or keep shopping until you find him. Stop trading what's important to you for the hope of someone who will never be what you need. #DontBeAfraidToSearch #PutOnYourBigGirlPanties #AndYourRunningShoes #AndGetToStepping #StopLookListen

-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

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