Just A Thought (Single Status):

Ladies, let's talk. Now, ‪#‎correct‬ me if I'm wrong, but I don't think there's anything wrong with men being ‪#‎single‬ (or women either, for that matter). Recently, I had the privilege of having a rather lengthy ‪#‎conversation‬ with some guys about women's ‪#‎attitudes‬ toward their "single" ‪#‎statuses‬. And the argument that I made was that "Women have no issues with men being single. What they have an issue with are ‪#‎men‬ who play ‪#‎games‬with them." When they all smiled, I said, "If you're with her, and play with her, you're an asshole. If you're lying to her to get what you want from her, you're a ‪#‎punk‬. And if you consistently sell ‪#‎dreams‬ to her and allow her to ‪#‎invest‬ in you when you know you have no positive, long-term‪#‎intentions‬, you're not a real man." I then reiterated that "Women aren't bothered by single men, we're bothered by men pretending to be everything but. And contrary to popular belief, every ‪#‎woman‬ isn't dying to‪#‎settle‬ down. But I would be willing to bet that those who are, really want a family. But no matter what she wants or doesn't want, no one deserves to have their time wasted on ‪#‎people‬ who don't value it." Any thoughts?

-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible