Just A Thought (See Me):

​Stop thinking that you have to alter everything about yourself to capture the attention of a man. It's unrealistic to think that you can top every chick at everything. There will always be someone prettier, more voluptuous, and more educated; someone who cooks better, walks better, and "loves" better. But what you need to work on is being your best version of you. Yes, improvement (in the form of growth and maturation) is welcomed and even encouraged, but you all are literally killing yourselves trying to keep the attention of men who's eyes will always be elsewhere--in spite of who you are or aren't, or what you do or don't do. With these types of men, no matter how good or great you are at anything, they'll find someone different and new to "love." Mostly because with them, it's not about what you have or don't, it's about conquering what's next. On the flip side, you have to ignore any man who doesn't appreciate you or carry good intentions. Consequently, we must only allow ourselves to be with men who know that they can't live their best lives without us in them.
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible