Just A Thought (Rule of Thumb #19):

Rule of thumb #19: If you spend your days and nights tracking down his women, warning them about what kind of man he is, and tossing around the same old, empty ultimatums, you're crazy. [He and his side piece are probably laughing at your silly ass right now.] So, you're telling me that you're chasing a man, claiming a man, stalking a man, and settling for a man who doesn't deserve to sit next next to you, let alone lay next to you; a man that can't possibly love you, doesn't respect you, and is giving you every reason in the world to discover someone better? Stop going after other women!!!!! It's not your job to make them aware of his relationship status; it's his. His other women are not the source of your relationship's dysfunction; he is.They're not the one's cheating on you; he is. And they're not obligated to you; he is. #WakeUp #SeeItForWhatItIs Ladies, he disrespects you because there is no consequence. He cheats because after you bitch about it, you stay there, on bended knee professing your love, praying that your tears will magically change this frog into a prince. He cheats because you gave him the "A-Okay" when you chose to use your mouth to complain instead of your legs to walk away. Newsflash ladies: YOU BEING TOO AFRAID TO WALK AWAY LETS HIM KNOW THAT IT'S ALRIGHT TO MISTREAT YOU. #HearMeOut When you're not afraid to #DumpHisAss, he knows that if he fucks up, your ass will be the last thing he sees as you walk out the door. Now, some of the more foolish women reading this are saying to themselves, "Maybe I'm not good enough...pretty enough...thick enough."#GirlBye. If anything, you're not strong enough, wise enough, or in love with who you are enough to disappear. When a man continually disrespects you, he doesn't value you, and I guarantee that he doesn't value you because you don't value you. #LoveYourself #KnowWhatLoveIs#RecognizeWhatLoveIsnt #ThereAreOtherMenToChooseFrom

-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

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