You may very well be "a good catch," but if you can't compromise with your #woman, you're a waste of time. If all you have going for you is a good wood game, you're a waste of time. You look good on your suit and tie shit, but if you can't follow her just as often as you lead her, you're a waste of #time. Your beard is always lined up and your fade is always fresh, but if you won't encourage her, you're a waste of time. Your #FBand #IG show strangers that you’re “living the life,” but if you can't be her support system, she’ll soon be out of yours. Your kicks are always name-brand, but you’re exhausted at the idea of standing by her when she’s afraid. You #love, love, love #MTV, #PornHub, #NBATV, and #ESPN, but don't love, love, love your woman. You saw what #RussellWestbrook wore into the locker room before watching #OKC play last night and heard that#BigSean’s #mixtape drops at midnight on #iTunes, but can't read your own woman's body language or understand your need to comfort her when she gets home clearly and plainly defeated. This shit here, is not about gender roles. This shit here IS NOT about you running shit or being in charge. This–ALL OF THIS–is about love, respect, and your misplaced ass priorities. Today’s men seem to only want BAD BITCHES, but plenty of ya'll are broke, #manipulators, #liars, and #abusers, which makes you both unqualified and undeserving of anything close to what you think she is. Ya’ll got #SportsIllustrated/ #SuperBowl/ #Nascar/ #MarchMadness/#NBAFinals dreams; and therefore, lack the acceptance or have the expectation of real lives with real wives. This love shit is a damn#RickRoss song to many of you; a #Rolex, or a man bag that encourages you to keep up with the Joneses, instead of creating a #family of [insert your last name here]. But that woman is not disposable. She is not here “until the next shipment comes in.” She is not a back-up because your#weekend plans fell through. If you aspire to be a husband, a father, or just an overall good #man, but can't seem to see beyond yourself, go back to bed, and keep dreaming. Stop thinking you are a legitimately perfect package, if all you possess is stuff and the #heart of you is#selfish. She is not a toy, nor a child you have to sell illusions to, to protect her feelings. Ya'll better get it right fellas, because if she ever comes across the likes of a good one, you'll be begging like #Babyface to get her back. #BelieveIt!!
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible
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