The man I hope to help you recognize (or salvage a relationship with) is a man whose arms are wide open and inviting to you. Yes, he may belch out loud or leave toothpaste in the sink (those are easy to work with, and are ultimately fixable); but if he treats you well, comes home at night, and takes great pride in protecting your heart, you need to work it out; get over your ego, and realize that you can’t always have it your way. You can’t unconsciously push him away because of an inner desire to practice your parenting skills. Sometimes, you’ve just got to let it go. If you are lucky enough to stand alongside a good man (with just a few noticeably inappropriate flaws, that you’d like to help him with), there are plenty of ways to go about “improving” him that are neither overbearing nor critical; ways that’ll make him seek you out for your opinions, not run for the hills at the mere thought of yet another criticism. Remember: it’s usually not what we say, but how we say it that alters the mood of a conversation. Being honest doesn’t mean we can’t be nice. If we hope to keep our relationships healthy and successful, we’ve got to protect them and feed them, not deprive them and abuse them. And if we are among the few to intercept the love of a good man, it would be my recommendation that we choose to praise his right and only offer helpful suggestions in the times when his left attempts to show.
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Love: Possible
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible
Page | 67
Love: Possible
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible
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