#Control has NO place in love...and what many find out the hard way is that when you choose to be in a #relationship with a man who controls it (and YOU), he has all of the power in the relationship. #AllOfIt!!! If you're begging him not to leave you (when he's the one that fu^%*d up), he knows he can have his way. If you're overlooking inappropriate behavior, your limits, standards, and expectations become null and void, and therefore, don't matter. And if he knows he has no consequences, what do you think he's going to do? #PlayersPlay. #Hard. But seriously, why would any adult want to be with someone they have to parent? [It doesn't matter, in this instance, whether you're the good guy or the bad guy, the predator or the prey.] If ya'll gotta babysit, somebody in the relationship isn't ready for a relationship. When he loves you, he's loyal; he's helpful; he's motivating. But when he's insecure and controlling, he takes advantage of you; he belittles you; he #manipulates you; he lies to you, and ultimately, he shapes you for his purpose. Control, ladies, is not#love. And love is NOT compromising everything that you are and everything you believe to please him or make him feel at ease. Each time he controls you with his tongue, his fists, or his actions, you lose a little more of yourselves. #TrustMe. And let's not confuse this with guidance, or a genuine concern for your well-being; those things center around his caring for you. Control, on the other hand, is selfish, cruel, and conniving. Care has '0' to do with that equation.
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible
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