Just A Thought (Choose Wisely):

Rule of thumb #8: We almost always take on the traits of our partners. It is soooooooo easy for us to blend with, mesh with, get lost in, and eventually become one with the man/woman we love. For this very reason, it is important that we choose our mates wisely. When we are loved, we love. But when we aren't, we often conform to our partner's way of being for approval. We act out to be noticed and change ourselves in an attempt to gain his/her affection, which brings about the "what has happened to her," or "she's changing him" whispers from our family and friends at the annual BBQs and kids' birthday parties. One thing I know to be true is that the right partner elevates us, makes us better and provokes our smiles. They induce positive changes in us, and make us feel whole. On the contrary, a man or woman who is wrong for us continuously steals our joy, induces pain, and stresses us the fu&% out!!!!! So we have to ‪#‎ChooseWisely‬. Our love experiences shape us---good or bad. The good experiences help us and heal us, while the bad ones scar us and confuse us. And who has time for that shit? ‪#‎NotMe‬!!!! ‪#‎NotAgain‬. ‪#‎Love‬ should be pleasant most of the time. And we are out here crying and begging men to see us when there are plenty in the world with 20/20 vision. There are some men out here too, who remain in relationships, begging for a woman's validation, when there are an abundance of women willing to cater to his every need.‪#‎Ijs‬; don't make the mistake of loving a fool, a bitch, a con artist, a manipulator, a liar, a joker, or a damn snake in the grass, when you can be loved wholly, earnestly, genuinely, and beautifully by a man/woman who can't wait to love you in return.
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible