Just A Thought (Can't Get Over You):

Don't fool yourselves into thinking you're over him, when your every thought is him, your every prayer is him, your everything is him. Let's be honest: IF YOU STILL TALK ABOUT HIM, YOU STILL CARE ABOUT HIM!!! If your room is laced with souvenirs from your trips together, and your ringtone is still his favorite song...#SMH ...you haven't left him, even if he's already packed up and left you. [No need to lie. #ItIsWhatItIs.] But MEMORY is, and always has been, a beautiful thing (when you don't fill in the blanks with bullshit). No relationship is ever all bad; there had to be something good we held on to, right? The trick is to NEVER FORGET what made it special, but possessing enough courage and enough strength to NEVER GO BACK to what tore you in two. Memory is our greatest ally; don't hate it; don't wish for the ability to turn it off. It is the basis of our wisdom, the evidence of our observations, and the instrument that protects our hearts from whatever it was or whoever it was that broke it in the first place. Ladies, I know that it's cold out, and winter is the time when everybody wants a body to lean on, love on, etc. But don't go back to basics for the sake of some heat. Get a blanket and turn on your damn space heater, wear two pairs of socks if you have to, and concentrate on you for a change. When the right one comes along, lose the socks, the blanket, and if you're lucky, the bra. But don't lose your mind by going back to bullshit. #ItsNeverWorthIt Time only heals wounds if you let it.

-Kanika A. Vann
Author: Love: Possible

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