Let's see; you love him and he loves you. You respect him and he respects you. You're attracted to each other, depend on one another, and you both communicate well with the other. The sex is good, the chemistry is loud, and the values are similar, and yet you find yourself waiting for someone "better;" a man with (maybe) a better ride, a bigger crib, and a larger "ego." A man with deeper pockets, less time to spend with you and one too many excuses. Hmmm; where do I begin? YOU'RE AN IDIOT!!!! The End.

Love,
Kanika A. Vann

SAY IT LOUD: "I am strong because I've been weak. I am fearless because I've been afraid. And I am wise because I've been foolish." Ladies and gentlemen, we can't change what we don't acknowledge. Realize then, that it's time to be honest with ourselves about where we are, who we've been and what we've done to provoke our own tears. If not, the false faces we wear and the lies that we tell, destroy us. So understand that our stories must never serve as our excuses, but rather lessons that lend us a priceless WISDOM—proof that we LIVED and LEARNED from our previous chapters.
-Kanika A. Vann

Let us break free from the old-fashioned notion that women are the only individuals required to be submissive in relationships. Submission is without a doubt, a non-negotiable standard in the relationship equation, because vulnerability, trust, and our coupled expectations entail some level of it (besides, both men and women interact with all three). Submission is not something that women do; it's something that people do—grown ups, who respect their situation and find the work involved worthwhile, to keep that situation. The truth of the matter is that each of us submits to something or someone at some point, so don't fight it. Submission is not surrender, withdrawal, or apathy. It doesn’t mean inferiority. It's more so a mixture of mutual commitment and cooperation between the parties in the relationship. So take note ladies: give ALL that you are to the man who deserves it, and realize that you deserve the same. Hear him when he has your best interest at heart, but know that you'll be called upon to do the same. Follow when necessary, but be ready to lead when it's time. Submission shows maturity. Submission shows strength. Submission shows trust. Submission shows devotion. #BelieveIt 
-Kanika A. Vann