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Love will always have different definitions to different people because we all require different things from it, but stay mindful of what love is not. Remember what you deserve and protect your heart from what is unacceptable. The man who loves you does nothing to hurt you, but everything to secure you.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible
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So many of you are praying for weddings and rings and honeymoons; I pray that you find a man who loves you, protects you, respects you, and because you hold him down, he reciprocates in such a way that you never have to worry.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible It does get better, you know? When you stop hurting yourself or allowing yourself to be hurt in order to feel something, anything. When you stop making excuses for his/her bullshit. When you stop pursuing what hurts you or choosing illogically to avoid loneliness. When you learn to love yourself first--like really love who you are--life can only get better.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Strive for the kind of love that warms you in ways that Uggs cannot, in ways that fireplaces envy, in ways that hot cocoa could only dream of. When genuine love grabs hold of you, it wraps you up in its certainty, in its clarity, in its care, and does everything in its power to keep it there. #StriveToLoveHimEveryday #AlwaysMakeHerFeelSpecial
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible #Men won't change unless #women do. The rules don't #change unless our #expectations do. And the process of choosing a whole #man can only begin after we make up our minds to both #expect and accept whole men—not half-assin' it, just-to-get-by men, not other women's men, and not the crumbs that not-so-good men offer. It's sad to say, but we're creating much of our own misery because we're afraid to let go, are afraid to walk away, or are #afraid to be alone. I'm not saying we deserve the back and forth, the side pieces, the #disrespect, #drama, #lies or #games. I'm not making excuses for some of their bullshit antics or socially-accepted, asinine #behaviors. But how much of our heartbreak is truly their fault, if we allow it? We may not deserve it...but what's the difference between what's #deserved and what's accepted? If we stay, not a damn thing. #TBT #2014
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible #Submission is #unisex, gender neutral, and required of both parties in a #relationship. It has never been about sex or genitalia, but rather #trust, #accountability, #communication, and maturity. At the same time, men have to realize that their penises don't make them leaders; it is their dependability and integrity that make us feel comfortable enough to walk in faith with them.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible If this is what you're living for, appreciate it. If this is what you're praying for, don't choose anything less than who can actually give it to you. If this is what you're waiting for, be patient. If this is what you're expecting, mean it. And if this is what you're preparing for, be ready for it and deserving of it when it comes. #RelationshipGoals
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Let your heart heal.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Our romantic successes and failures do not dictate our importance, our relevance, or our self-worth. Whether we have a man, just broke up with him, are dating several, or have zero prospects, our deservedness of love, loyalty, and respect should have nothing to do with our track record. Societal pressure is non-sense. Cultural pressure is non-sense. Family pressure is non-sense. And any disregard for our feelings, sensitivities, efforts, or losses should in no way deter our hope for love, nor should we be defined by our disappointment during it's absence or our fear of it during our brokenness. Ladies, please let your hearts heal before you love again. Please allow your eyes to see before you love again. Please allow him to prove himself before you love again. We can't get to a "win" until we prepare ourselves for it.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible #Ladies, you've got to value your vagina. If you don't, you can bet that he won't. So I'll repeat: Guard your damn #goodies!! #YouveBeenWarned. Although, I do know that some of you have to learn the hard way. #ThatsOnYou #GoAheadWithYourBadStupidSelf #BumpYourHead But don't say I didn't tell you. You want him to see you? Hear you? Respect you? Then be of value to him by being more than a booty-call, his bottom bitch, or that joint who gives super-head. You're supposed to do better when you know better!!!! I know pleasing him makes you feel powerful and desired. But what good is power when you're empty inside? #ThinkTwice When it's time to rock his socks and beat them sheets, enjoy...but becoming a hollow shell for a man who could care less is STUPID!!! #WakeUp #TBT #2014
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AuthorI, Kanika Vann (writer, author, editor, journalist, poet, publisher, and love enthusiast), created Love: Possible© with the intent to help save my sisters from the unnecessary pain that accompanies the acceptance of confusion, dysfunction, and disrespect in our romantic relationships, but not without calling special attention to our most valuable relationship—the one we have with ourselves. CategoriesArchives
April 2017
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