Be mindful that: "I'm comfortable" is not an excuse for abuse. If holding onto him, means holding on to pain, it's time to dump his ass. If he acts without care or concern for how we feel—girl, dump his ass. If you are distrusting of his intentions, his "truth" and/or his sincerity, you got it—DUMP HIS ASS. 

Love may get uncomfortable, but it shouldn't hurt. It may feel overwhelming at times, but it should never leave a scar—mental or physical. He can't possibly hit you, cheat on you, or have kids with other women (while he's in a "relationship" with you) and expect for you to be there to hold him down. If he does, he really has a problem, and that's all the more reason to get the hell away from him. I say avoid the drama, the headache, the bullshit, and the confusion, and save yourself some sleep, some money, and some paperwork, by taking your final bow, exiting stage left, and leaving his ass right where he stands. Who knows? Maybe he'll have some luck wooing another crowd. Don't worry about who he'll end up with or how far she'll get with him, because a tiger never changes its stripes, and he'll end up back in the same position once more; same script, different cast. And even if he does go on to marry someone and/or create a family with someone, you'll come to breathe a sigh of relief that you dodged a bullet, and aren't the unfortunate soul who's stuck carrying his last name or the baby weight from bearing his big-headed ass children. But, I too, know that moving on is easier said than done.
 -Kanika Vann
Love: Possible© (Page|104)

Hey Juicy J,
Love will make her dance too!

Sincerely,
Kanika A. Vann

We can't mistake lust with appreciation. A man's desire of you doesn't guarantee that he values you--your mind, your smile or your presence. Just because he wants you physically doesn't automatically equate to his knowledge of your worth or that he gives two shits about it.
-Kanika Vann

Just because you're claiming him, loving him, fawning all over him, and giving up all your goodies doesn’t make him your man. Reciprocation makes him your man. His show of love, desire to work for your trust, your heart and your body, makes him your man. His proof of reliability makes him your man. His voluntary want to give, protect, and love without reservation makes him your man. His hope for the future makes him your man. His embrace of the present makes him your man. And his assurance that the past has prepared him for you and these moments makes him your man. But more than anything, when you have his heart, his attention, and his thoughts of forever, let go honey, and seize the day--you can rest assured, he's your MAN!
-Kanika Vann

Youth is often used as an excuse for stupidity, an ailment that, to an extent, must be experienced in order to gain wisdom. But Love: Possible© hopes to cut such foolishness off at the pass for young women, the same way that it hopes to extinguish hopelessness, confusion, and the idiotic acceptance of the undeserved in those of us who should know better.
-Kanika Vann

In most instances, I’d say that it’s our own lack of intelligence; our blind naivety and persistent stupidity that keep us trapped in inferior relationships with men, as we don’t realize until it’s too late that a good man gives us what’s right, not what’s left. We can’t give up anything and everything for love when it fails to give to us in return, or love and love and love; and give, and give, and give without some proof of why we should. 

Ladies, believe me when I tell you: there’s no reward in loving him greatly, unless he’s willing to love us back that way. And there’s no glory or acclaim that will come from putting our heart and soul into a man who could care less about our presence. We hear over and over again that we don’t give to receive, and that love is love’s reward. But if we’re dumb enough to love a man wholeheartedly without ever having been convinced of any reason to, there will be no one else around to blame but ourselves, no other tears to dry but our own, and no other heart to mend but the one we’ve allowed him to break.

Love and loyalty mean very little to men who don’t love us in return. Breaking our back, busting our humps, and going out of our way won’t help us to win him over, if he’s indifferent about us being there from the start. The only thing that
those virtues will ever spell out in his book are that we’re willing to let him play, or don’t have a problem waiting for him to love us back, no matter how long it takes. [And uh; that would be a “hell no” for 600 Alex!!!] So if we know
it isn’t love, we must not allow ourselves to waste time in it.
-Kanika Vann
Track 5: Love is Blind
Pages | 78-79

"The woman who complains about a man's refusal to love her is utterly confused and must stupidly believe that love is negotiable. But she'd be wrong, because unadulterated love is undeniably sure. Real love is void of any doubt or hesitation, masks no emotion and knows very few boundaries. The real problem here ladies (for most of you), is not with what you're asking of him, but instead, the fact that you're still with him. Because more often than not, our problems aren't with our expectations, but with whom we expect things from." #girldumphisass
-Kanika A. Vann