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#Ego has blocked the hearts and potential connections of so many people. We're not built for permanent solitude, so we can't allow stubborness and pride to interrupt our purpose. We're built to give and take, to #love and be loved. So drop the ego, and hold his/her #heart.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible
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#Love can be found repeatedly. But if we make good choices, have faith in the process, and are ready when our turn comes, we need not seek it repeatedly.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible His love for you, respect for you, and intentions for you MUST BE true, evident, and good. Anything less is not love. Anything less is stress. Anything less is reason to walk away.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible I'm convinced that half of you enjoy acting a fool, being stupid, looking crazy, and being embarrassed. You were born with #intuition for a #divine purpose, ladies: #PROTECTION. But how many of you actually use it? You CAN'T save him; he's not a puppy. You can't coddle him; he's not a baby. You can't #change him; he's not a tire!!!! #WakeUp and realize that his age doesn't always translate to his being grown. Realize that 'available' isn't always synonymous with 'ready'. Understand that #sex doesn't always translate to #boyfriend. Process the fact then that you being 'wifey material' doesn't mean that he'll behave. And above all, know that your hope for him is related to his #potential, NOT his #reality. #OpenYourEyes, clean out your ears, reassess your fairy tales, and get a damn grip. If you want the rules to change, for these men to change, you gotta be willing to be about what you speak about. #StraightUp!!!
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Some #relationships work out, others don't. But we have to learn to count our blessings in either circumstance. Whether the two of you end up together as #partners (#lovers), are able to cut #romantic ties and maintain a #friendship, or become #strangers with zero ties, the addition (or for some, the subtraction), makes you better, and allows you to witness, grow, and understand. Believe then, that not all "#love" is meant to be.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Rule of thumb #124: Thou shalt not lose thyself trying to #pursue or hold on to those who have no #care, #concern, or #worry about losing you.#Love don't walk like that, talk like that, look like that, or sound like that, and #relationships surely can't work like that.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible The #proof is always in the pudding: Don't #apologize; #stop #cheating. Don't apologize; stop #lying. Don't apologize; #communicate better. Don't apologize; be better. Don't apologize; #love more. Don't apologize; #givemore. Don't apologize; be more #consistent. Don't apologize; be more#reliable. Don't apologize; stop selling #bullshit. Don't apologize; start honoring your #commitments. Don't apologize; be #trustworthy. Don't apologize; be #considerate. Don't apologize; be #mature. Don't apologize; be #sincere. Ladies, if he means "I'm sorry," you'll see his "I'm sorry"; you'll feel his "I'm sorry." If not, all you're really getting is a "damn I got caught." Don't let #excuses become the norm in your love #connection. If he's apologizing and you know he's prepping to do it again, #DumpHisAss. If he's apologizing and acts the part for a while just to smooth shit over, then flips the switch, DUMP HIS #ASS. And if he's apologizing but isn't #capableof #quitting, you know what #time it is. Stop ignoring the #signs. Love just ain't that damn #blind!!!!!
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Forget about his #promises; progress is what allows #relationships to evolve. Without his show of love, or his proof of love, his "I love you" has no meaning.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible You say you love him. But how can you #love a #man that you don't #trust? You go through his phone, track his every move on social media, check his gas mileage, go through his pockets while he's asleep, and constantly ask him where he is and where he's going. His mother's and brother's numbers are in your favorites (even though they're not your favorite people); you question every receipt; and you want to know why he does everything from working out to choosing his clothes for work. Ok; so you're telling me that you've chosen to share your bed and your body with a fool? You share your fears and desires with a fool? You allow yourself to be vulnerable with a fool? You decide to make life-altering decisions (i.e., have children, buy houses, and adopt dogs) with a fool? LOVE CANNOT BE REAL OR#HONEST OR SUCCESSFUL WITHOUT TRUST. Looking beyond his#foolishness is not trust. Ignoring his reality is not trust. Praying for him to#change is not trust. And hoping it gets better is not trust. Sometimes it's just not worth it and you've got to learn to trust your #heart and walk away.
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AuthorI, Kanika Vann (writer, author, editor, journalist, poet, publisher, and love enthusiast), created Love: Possible© with the intent to help save my sisters from the unnecessary pain that accompanies the acceptance of confusion, dysfunction, and disrespect in our romantic relationships, but not without calling special attention to our most valuable relationship—the one we have with ourselves. CategoriesArchives
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