-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible
Your expectations are only unrealistic if what you ask for doesn't match what you have to offer (or are, at the very least, willing to). So don't stress yourselves out about what you should and shouldn't ask for, or are good enough or not good enough to receive. In reality, we don't always get what we want and sometimes what we think we want turns out to be something we could care less for. #ItHappens. #Often. But if what you desire is something you also possess (or happen to be working toward), don't feel bad about asking for it. While some of us hope to find someone opposite of ourselves, there are just as many who hope to find a mirror. There's nothing wrong with either circumstance. #DontApologize#DontWorry #BeHappy #LoveIsWhereYouFindIt. But ladies, even with that being said, it's one thing to say that he has to have a car, but something totally different if your requirement is a Bentley (when you're driving a Civic; no shade though—shout-out to #Honda). It's perfectly normal for his employment to be a requirement, but it is unrealistic to request that he make 6-figures, unless you too hover around that area. If you look like Wanda or Shanaynay and are hoping to pull Boris Kodjoe or Idris Elba, you need professional help. I'm not saying you can't dream, but at the end of the day, equality, compromise, and reciprocity are what keep our relationships intact. And wanting something you can't give is what truly makes it all unrealistic.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible
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First loves receive all of you; the unreserved and unashamed you. They know the first #version of you. But for as #beautiful as that first #love is, lasting love #ALWAYS proves better. See, there's a #piece that only the first one gets, but a #peace, that only the last one gives. #TBT #2013
-Kanika Vann Author, Love: Possible Love, in any capacity, requires sacrifice. When it's genuine, the giver will do what he/she can, whenever he/she can to help you, protect you, or revive you. Don't confuse him/her with someone who has the means to give, but has no real desire to. There is surely a difference between the man or woman who'd offer you 100% and the man or woman who would offer you pennies just to look good, get cool points, shut you up, or to make you go away. #ExpectGenuineLove #GiveEarnestly #LoveWholly or#NotAtAll.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible #YouWannaPlayAGame? #PhoneSwap #IDareYou!!!! The sad part is, many of you are already single, and don't even know it. And the truth is, that a few of you know and are too scared to do anything about it. #SMH!!!#WalkAway!!! #DumpHisAss #Now!!!#YouDontHaveToWorryWhenHesWorthy!!!
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it. But it's true too, that we don't know what we've been missing until it says hello. #TBT#2013
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible How many more ways can I say this? Every man who's thoroughly earned his crown should be treated like a king. But most of you are in love with jokers, hoping they'll change just because #YOU don't have the heart, the courage, the drive, or the desire to start over!!! I'm telling you now: START OVER. If he does not cherish you, protect you, and give his best self to you, #WalkAway!!! You deserve to be a real king's queen.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Don't get involved with me unless you want to evolve with me!!!#FoodForThought #HappyFriday!!!
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Let's see; you love him and he loves you. You respect him and he respects you. You're attracted to each other, depend on one another, and you both communicate well with the other. The sex is good, the chemistry is loud, and the values are similar, and yet you find yourself waiting for someone "better;" a man with (maybe) a better ride, a bigger crib, and a larger "ego." A man with deeper pockets, less time to spend with you and one too many excuses. Hmmm; where do I begin? YOU'RE AN IDIOT!!!! The End. #TBT #2013
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Never say, "I'm done" when you know you have more to give. Never say, "I don't need him" when you have no intention to actually walk away from him. And never say, "Lose my number," when you know that you'll answer when he calls, or text him when you're lonely.
When we play games with men, they play right along with us. They're well aware that those empty threats, warnings, and ultimatums mean nothing. Trust then, that if you know you're full of shit, he does too. You can't be afraid to lose him, especially when you know that your heart is not his prize. So if we're still willing to answer when he calls, or profess our love after his 'hello', we're not done, we're just angry. With that said, it's about time that we hold ourselves just as responsible as we hold them. If you expect him to say what he means, you're required to do the same. If he's a liar, accept it and walk away. If he's an asshole, accept it and walk away. If he fails to value you, accept it and walk away. But when you finally choose to walk away, keep walking: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!!!!!! #NoMoreTears #OnlyCourage #KnowYourWorth #TBT#2014 -Kanika Vann Author, Love: Possibl A man's mind is elevated to the status of the women he associates with.
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AuthorI, Kanika Vann (writer, author, editor, journalist, poet, publisher, and love enthusiast), created Love: Possible© with the intent to help save my sisters from the unnecessary pain that accompanies the acceptance of confusion, dysfunction, and disrespect in our romantic relationships, but not without calling special attention to our most valuable relationship—the one we have with ourselves. CategoriesArchives
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