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Just A Thought (Choices):

5/31/2016

‪#‎Ladies‬, when we ‪#‎love‬ ourselves, we tend to make better ‪#‎choices‬, invite better company, and entertain more positive ‪#‎attention‬. It is quite noticeable to a ‪#‎man‬, whether or not you care about your ‪#‎heart‬, because when you do, you're more selective about who you give it to. You're not fooling him or anyone else when you claim to know your ‪#‎worth‬but find yourself #heart broken every 6 weeks. You're not fooling him or anyone else when you say you're ready but show that you're ‪#‎afraid‬. What message do you think it sends to him when you make ‪#‎excuses‬ for his bad ‪#‎behavior‬ or overlook his ‪#‎foolishness‬? No one wants to deal with‪#‎bullshit‬, but a ‪#‎woman‬ who refuses to play ‪#‎games‬ has no reason to hide from love. He either has what she wants or doesn't. If he doesn't, there are no conversations to be had; she simply moves on, because she loves herself enough to ‪#‎WalkAway‬.
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

Just A Thought (Lover Her Now):

5/30/2016

#‎Ladies‬, you do know that the best time to ‪#‎work‬ on ‪#‎yourself‬ is before you meet him? That you'll do the most for your ‪#‎relationship‬ before you enter into one? And that you must be whole before you can possibly be his better half? ‪#‎OhOkay‬ Just thought I'd jog your ‪#‎memory‬... ‪#‎WakeUp‬!!! You can't wait for him to ‪#‎love‬ you. ‪#‎ItAllStartsWithYou‬... ‪#‎LoveHerNow‬!!!
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

Just A Thought (Lovers and Friends):

5/29/2016

‪#‎LoversAndFriends‬???? Okay, ‪#‎NowYoureReady‬!!!!!!
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

Just A Thought (123):

5/27/2016

‪#‎Brothers‬, if you make her feel ‪#‎loved‬, you're doing your ‪#‎job‬. If you make her feel ‪#‎safe‬, you're doing your job. If you allow her to be‪#‎vulnerable‬, you're doing your job. If you have proved yourself to be‪#‎trustworthy‬, you're doing your job. If you ‪#‎honor‬ her as a woman, as well as the ‪#‎relationship‬ she believes she shares with you, you are doing your job. It has been ingrained in you to expect difficulty from a ‪#‎woman‬. But if you ‪#‎respect‬ her, ‪#‎listen‬ as often as you ‪#‎lead‬ her, ‪#‎love‬ her,‪#‎communicate‬ with her, are mature about your shit, and throw it down when it's time, she will love you in ways you never knew existed.‪#‎EasyAs123‬!!! ‪#‎TrustMe‬!!! It's your ‪#‎consistency‬ in these areas that will determine how ‪#‎consistent‬ she is with her ‪#‎attitude‬, her ‪#‎reception‬ of you, and her ‪#‎ability‬ to ‪#‎trust‬ you.‪#‎PutAStampOnIt‬...‪#‎PostThisOnHisPage‬ :)

-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

Just A Thought (TBT; 2014)

5/26/2016

You tell me you feel like shit; like nothing; that you're incomplete without him. But what difference does it make if you feel like shit; like nothing, and are incomplete while you're "with" him? You hold on to him for the sake of "having a man." You carry around the weight of a heavy heart to save face, and have convinced yourself that it's okay to feel empty and be unhappy, because having a piece of him is better than having none of him; because having a piece of him matters more than your peace of mind. But how much sense does that really make? When will you choose to rally for your heart the same way you rally for his? In all honesty, for as much as you think you love him, it's quite impossible that you do. Ladies [I'm gonna write this in BOLD so that you understand], YOU CAN'T POSSIBLY LOVE HIM WHOLLY WHEN YOU'VE YET TO LOVE YOU.

#‎BeStrong‬ ‪#‎ItsOkayToWalkAway‬ ‪#‎YouHaveToMatterToYouToo‬ ‪#‎TBT‬#2014

-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

Just A Thought (Sentence Structure):

5/25/2016

#‎Ladies‬, please stop allowing these ‪#‎men‬ to act as ‪#‎commas‬ in your‪#‎sentences‬. No more ‪#‎pauses‬; no more stalling; no more ‪#‎continuations‬without reason. If he's not down for you; let him go...‪#‎PERIOD‬.
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

Just A Thought (That's All Too):

5/24/2016

‪#‎AppreciateHer‬. ‪#‎ShowHer‬. ‪#‎TellHer‬. ‪#‎RespectHer‬. ‪#‎ProtectHer‬.‪#‎LoveHer‬. But only if ‪#‎ShesWorthIt‬!!!
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

Just A Thought (That's All):

5/23/2016

‪#‎AppreciateHim‬. ‪#‎RespectHim‬. ‪#‎LoveHim‬. But only if ‪#‎HesWorthIt‬!!!
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

Just A Thought (Effort):

5/22/2016

‪#‎Effort‬ is how ‪#‎men‬ show their ‪#‎love‬, ‪#‎ladies‬. He may not ‪#‎cook‬ well or make the most ‪#‎money‬, but he tries everyday to make you ‪#‎smile‬, to not burn surprise ‪#‎dinners‬, to prove his love, to ‪#‎honor‬ his ‪#‎commitment‬ and to guard your ‪#‎heart‬. His ‪#‎connection‬ to you and his ‪#‎relationship‬ with you should never be about ‪#‎perfection‬, but rather the ‪#‎energy‬ he puts into justifying his ‪#‎presence‬.
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

Just A Thought (Prioritize):

5/20/2016

I can't understand how a ‪#‎woman‬ expects to be a ‪#‎man‬'s priority when she's never been her own. ‪#‎FixIt‬, ‪#‎ladies‬.

-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

Author

I, Kanika Vann (writer, author, editor, journalist, poet, publisher, and love enthusiast), created Love: Possible© with the intent to help save my sisters from the unnecessary pain that accompanies the acceptance of confusion, dysfunction, and disrespect in our romantic relationships, but not without calling special attention to our most valuable relationship—the one we have with ourselves.

Subsequently, both my book and my website seek to help salvage our realistic expectations and eliminate our unrealistic beliefs. With these words, I aim to transform misconception into certainty, and disillusion into faith, in hopes that you'll each come to recognize who you are, what you are, and what you deserve.

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