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 It's rather unfortunate when those that give us the best memories become memories. Oh, but what a blessing it is to look back and smile, yet have the common sense to remember why they're a part of your past and not your present.
-Kanika Vann Author, Love: Possible
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 Ladies and gentleman, let's be clear: wanting to change and actually changing are a thousand miles a part. What most of us fail to recognize (from the beginning) though, is how large a part discipline, courage and determination actually play in the process. Relationships aren't established because we hope for them. And love isn't found simply because we close our eyes and wish really hard for it. If we want things to be better, we MUST be willing to change them, have our minds set on the need to change them, be brave enough to change them, and persistent enough to follow through once we've made the change. So stop hoping and wishing for things to manifest, and make them happen. Stop whining about how things could be different, "IF ONLY." We control more of our life's outcomes than we'd like to think. Problem is: action is the name of this game--always has been; always will be--but most of us are too afraid, too lazy, or too comfortable to make that change. #GetItTogether #Don'tBeCruel #BeBetter #ForI #ForUs #ForWe
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible  Attempting to hold onto men that don't love us with everything that they are, isn't a good idea. If he doesn't understand what it takes to love you, he can't. And until (or unless) he's ready and willing to do what's necessary to love you, he won't. We can't wait around for him, or try to change him. If he truly wants to secure who and what we are for him, we won't have to hold on; we'll be able to let go, and find that he's still there—doing all he can to secure our love, and maintain it for his life.
-Kanika Vann Author, Love: Possible  Just because you're claiming him, loving him, fawning all over him, and giving up all your goodies doesn’t make him your man. Reciprocation makes him your man. His show of love, desire to work for your trust, your heart and your body, makes him your man. His proof of reliability makes him your man. His voluntary want to give, protect, and love without reservation makes him your man. His hope for the future makes him your man. His embrace of the present makes him your man. And his assurance that the past has prepared him for you and these moments makes him your man. But more than anything, when you have his heart, his attention, and his thoughts of forever, let go honey, and seize the day--you can rest assured, he's your MAN!
-Kanika Vann Author, Love: Possible  Real love includes an insistence upon, a willingness to, and a likelihood of sacrificing for another person. If you aren't willing to compromise, and at some point surrender something, he/she does not love you. #BelieveIt #Sacrifice #Certainty #Selflessness #RealLoveDoesntExistWithoutThem.
-Kanika Vann Author, Love: Possible  Hoarding isn't exclusive to material things. There are people that hoard hearts, feelings, and even lies. Are you a hoarder? #SometimesItsJustBestToLetItGo
-Kanika Vann Author, Love: Possible  Never say, "I'm done" when you know you have more to give. Never say, "I don't need him" when you have no intention to actually walk away from him. And never say, "Lose my number," when you know that you'll answer when he calls, or text him when you're lonely.
When we play games with men, they play right along with us. They're well aware that those empty threats, warnings, and ultimatums mean nothing. Trust then, that if you know you're full of shit, he does too. You can't be afraid to lose him, especially when you know that your heart is not his prize. So if we're still willing to answer when he calls, or profess our love after his 'hello', we're not done, we're just angry. With that said, it's about time that we hold ourselves just as responsible as we hold them. If you expect him to say what he means, you're required to do the same. If he's a liar, accept it and walk away. If he's an asshole, accept it and walk away. If he fails to value you, accept it and walk away. But when you finally choose to walk away, keep walking: ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!!!!!! #NoMoreTears #OnlyCourage #KnowYourWorth -Kanika Vann Author, Love: Possible  REAL TALK: Loving the wrong man doesn't make you stupid, but continuing to stay with his ass after you've realized that he ain't shit, does.
-Kanika Vann Author, Love: Possible  The ultimate purpose for consequence, or circumstance, is our becoming the persons it takes to get over, and get through them.
-Kanika Vann Author, Love: Possible  Rain, like pain, releases its own unique beauty.
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AuthorI, Kanika Vann (writer, author, editor, journalist, poet, publisher, and love enthusiast), created Love: Possible© with the intent to help save my sisters from the unnecessary pain that accompanies the acceptance of confusion, dysfunction, and disrespect in our romantic relationships, but not without calling special attention to our most valuable relationship—the one we have with ourselves. CategoriesArchives
April 2017
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