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Ladies, ya'll crying yourselves to sleep over men that aren't even close to deserving you--men who eat your food, but won't buy groceries; men who drive your car, but have issues putting gas in it; men who use you to have an address, a closet, and a credit score, but can't commit to a title. Man, ya'll better #WakeTheFuckUp!!!
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible
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We're searching so hard to find Mr. Right, that we're losing ourselves. Remember that, while you're preparing for him, you're looking for you.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Just a word to the wise: Don't hate him; don't regret him; don't carry that detriment in your spirit. Instead, thank the heaven's for him; for your purpose, for his purpose in adding to your purpose, for his being a liar or an abuser, a cheater or a loser. Thank him for who he wasn't and for being the asshole that we was. And while you're at it, buy him a Hallmark card thanking him for his worthlessness–because you're now better for it; even better than you were with him. If you haven't already done so, take this moment to turn that hatred, that frustration, and that bitterness into a determination to choose better, do better, and know better the next time around. #TBT #2014
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Sometimes we are so driven by our need to be wanted that we compromise in ways that we shouldn't; in ways that are unacceptable. Ladies, we have to fix that. See him for who he is, and see yourself in your choosing of him.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Decisions determine destinations. Remember that the next time you take him back; the next time you fail to appreciate a good man; the next time you make excuses for his lies; the next time you accept his inconsistency.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Stop being loyal to his maybe's.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible What he isn't (for you), tells you just as much as who he is (to you). #DontMakeExcusesForHim.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Your expectations are only unrealistic if what you ask for doesn't match what you have to offer (or are, at the very least, willing to). So don't stress yourselves out about what you should and shouldn't ask for, or are good enough or not good enough to receive. In reality, we don't always get what we want and sometimes what we think we want turns out to be something we could care less for. #ItHappens. #Often. But if what you desire is something you also possess (or happen to be working toward), don't feel bad about asking for it. While some of us hope to find someone opposite of ourselves, there are just as many who hope to find a mirror. There's nothing wrong with either circumstance. #DontApologize #DontWorry #BeHappy #LoveIsWhereYouFindIt. But ladies, even with that being said, it's one thing to say that he has to have a car, but something totally different if your requirement is a Bentley (when you're driving a Civic; no shade though—shout-out to #Honda). It's perfectly normal for his employment to be a requirement, but it is unrealistic to request that he make 6-figures, unless you too, hover around that area. If you look like Wanda or Shanaynay and are hoping to pull Boris Kodjoe or Idris Elba, you need professional help. I'm not saying you can't dream, but at the end of the day, realism, compromise, and reciprocity are what keep our relationships intact. And wanting something you can't give is what truly makes it all unrealistic. #TBT #2015
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Never taking a chance on love doesn't make you undefeated, it makes you inexperienced. Running away from your chance to love won't save you from pain, it only harvests regret. And hiding from a potential love won't keep you safe, it just keeps you selfish. #TeamLove...Join me! #TBT #2013
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Don't get so used to getting what you get that you don't get what you need. #RealTalk
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AuthorI, Kanika Vann (writer, author, editor, journalist, poet, publisher, and love enthusiast), created Love: Possible© with the intent to help save my sisters from the unnecessary pain that accompanies the acceptance of confusion, dysfunction, and disrespect in our romantic relationships, but not without calling special attention to our most valuable relationship—the one we have with ourselves. CategoriesArchives
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