Rule of thumb #51: Don't be angry; be an adult. It ain't always meant be.
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible
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If you're looking for a good man, looking for a good woman, please remember that: "The quality of foundation determines the degree of stability." Look at her mother; look at his father. I'm not saying that parental sanity should be the only factor in your decision-making or that poor family structure should automatically disqualify a person, but damn, if that shit helps. Crazy is, as crazy does; and bad apples don't usually fall too far from the tree. #Ijs, #BaggageIsReal. #DontHurtYourBack....#PayAttention!!! #TBT #2013
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Rule of thumb #64: Never worry about who wants your man/woman, if your man/woman ONLY wants you. You'll drive yourself #crazy for no fucking reason checking iPhones, glove compartments, and dirty clothes. If you don't trust him/her, can't trust him/her, or won't trust him/her, break up with him/her RIGHT NOW. Save him/her a #headache and the punishment of dealing with your bat-shit crazy ass.#AintNobodyGotTimeForThat!!!! And yes, gas may be cheap, but that shit ain't free, so stop putting all of those miles on your car following him to work, or trailing her to ladies night. That shit is an irrelevant waste of#time. You can't keep no man/woman that don't want to be kept, and clocking them won't keep them from #cheating if that's what they're determined to do. Without #trust, #monogamy, or #respect in your#relationship, it's not a relationship, it's a #convenience, and surely a waste of your precious time. #TrustMe!!! #LetItGo or let it go!!! -Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible #Honesty and #consistency are absolutely vital to our romantic relationships. So, if you aren't in possession of these traits or aren't on-track to utilizing them, nothing else that you say or do will matter. Not one of us--- male or female--- desires to love anyone we cannot trust or depend on.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Our relationships only thrive when we nurture them, protect them, and respect them. If we don't feed our love experiences, they starve. And we all know that starvation ain't pretty.#LoveYourMan!!! #LoveYourWoman!!! #ProtectHisHeart #ProtectHerHeart#HonorYourRelationship
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible You can't turn shit into gold, no more than you can turn diamonds into coal. So stop trying to turn whores into husbands, and good guys into bad boys. Either you want a bullshit artist or a well-deserving man; you can't have both (unless that is, you choose to be the kind of person you're chasing). #TBT #2013
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible #BeStill; #BeThankful. I can't stress to you enough that sometimes hurt, pain, loss and disappointment are happening FOR you, not necessarily TO you. The #relationships that you think you want may not be for you. The love that you're claiming maybe everything but. And the fairy tales you once held so closely may be attempting to show you some reality. Stop fighting with what's meant for you, and stop trying to hold onto what isn't. Sometimes #patience is what's meant to be.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Today, we celebrate love's insistence and determination; its beauty and perserverance. But because love isn't a fairy tale, we must remember to offer it realistically, wholly, and genuinely, and expect it to be reciprocated, as such. #Hallmark cards and expensive jewelry have little to do with what love truly is. And #candy, #sex, and #flowers have no relation to love unless something of substance is being offered along with them. We've all heard of #honesty, #loyalty, and #dependability, right? Okay, well...#ThatsWhatMatters today, and everyday. Besides, when he loves you earnestly, Valentine's Day is just another Sunday. Ladies, when he loves you beautifully, the window displays and well-timed "He doesn't love you unless he buys you this" commercials are just that. And when he loves you maturely, there's a #smile that tends to accompany the sunrise, the phone calls, the long embraces, and even his "hello." So yes, Valentine's Day is definitely a superficial reminder to remember love and celebrate and honor love, but it's up to us to implement love, reinforce love, and appreciate love. If you've yet to find him, today is a day to celebrate you. If you've recently let him go, today is a day to celebrate you, too. If he's already with you, today should be your "thank you," but so should Monday through Saturday. And if he's no longer Earthly-present, today is a day to reflect and rejoice because you've known love. In either circumstance, there is much to be grateful for, so much to look forward to. So whether his gifts are lavish or average, sentimental or creative, keep in mind that#gifts alone don't define the love experience. Words don't define the love experience. And #expectations don't define the love experience. It's his love, his selflessness, his consistency, and the impressions he leaves, that you should be grateful for. I mean, in the end, that's all there is. #Love!!!#HappyValentinesDay!!!
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible Rule of thumb #48: He'll never be the man you need him to be if you're not the woman he truly wants. You can try as hard as you want, but if he's intentionally "loving you" for the moment, waiting for better; you will #neverbe good enough, sweet enough, or pretty enough to please him. Look at it this way: Would you continue to waste time dieting, if for 6 months you failed to lose any weight? You'd surely feel like it was a waste of time, right? But let's be honest, that's only because you were eating the wrong foods. Ladies, he can taste good, look good, and smell good, but as my grandma used to say: "Everything that glitters, ain't gold." #LetHimGo and#DoWhatsBestForYourHeart; #StopCheatingYourself, and#StopWastingTime!!! If he wants you, he'll prove it. If he doesn't, he'll make excuses. #ItsThatSimple.
-Kanika A. Vann Author, Love: Possible When did it become #normal, or even okay, for us to #compromise our#hope, our #smiles, our #integrity, or our #hearts in the name of love?#ThinkTwice #TBT #2013
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AuthorI, Kanika Vann (writer, author, editor, journalist, poet, publisher, and love enthusiast), created Love: Possible© with the intent to help save my sisters from the unnecessary pain that accompanies the acceptance of confusion, dysfunction, and disrespect in our romantic relationships, but not without calling special attention to our most valuable relationship—the one we have with ourselves. CategoriesArchives
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