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Just A Thought (Green Grass All Around):

1/31/2015

#‎YouBetterKnowIt‬!!!! Respect your relationship, love your partner, and realize that what you don't ‪#‎cherish‬ can always be better taken care of by someone else. You can dishonor, disrespect and downplay your ‪#‎chance‬ to love if you want to. ‪#‎Trust‬ that there's always a warm body out there: willing, ready and able to stand in for you, and give that man/woman exactly what he/she has been missing. ‪#‎RespectTheChance‬. If you decide to play, your partner may very well find that there are times when the ‪#‎GrassIsGreener‬.

-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

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Just A Thought (Chronological Order):

1/30/2015

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If he has the ability to give you what you give him, give him a ‪#‎chance‬. If he can prove it, give him your ‪#‎time‬. If he does it all with a ‪#‎smile‬, give him your ‪#‎energy‬. And if he strives to do it whenever he can, however he can, give him your ‪#‎heart‬. All too often, we give our ‪#‎love‬ away with no intention to receive his love in return. ‪#‎WrongAnswer‬!!! We love him for no good reason other than it making us feel good. ‪#‎NoNoNo‬!!! Ladies, we have failed to factor in what we need into the relationship equation. We have forgotten to speak up, mistakenly confusing the "role" of a woman with the soul of a woman. That good man who "chose you and shows you" everyday, is who and what you want for your life. But that brother that lies down with you, then lies to you, ain't it. ‪#‎HeGottaShow‬ ‪#‎NotTell‬‪#‎GoodLove‬

-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible.

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Just A Thought (Don't Lose Your Presence in his Presents):

1/21/2015

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You degrade yourself for his money; lose yourself in his presence; demean yourself for his presents; disregard his wife and other life for your selfishness; beg, borrow, and steal for his status, then wonder why you're single, unhappy, depressed, suicidal, and don't have shit. Instead of creating a whole you, you rely on other people to create "her" for you. And that my dear is the #WrongAnswer!!! #RealWomen are about their business, not about his come up. Stop relying on everyone else to get what you want.#WomanUp, #ListenUp, #RealTalk.

-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

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Just A Thought (Replenish):

1/19/2015

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If he consistently takes from you, but never replenishes you: #DumpHisAss#Now!!!! [My name is Kanika Vann, and I approve this message.]

-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

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Just A Thought (Dear Mr. Zuckerberg, Tricks Are For Kids):

1/17/2015

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To all my readers, Facebook and Instagram followers, well-wishers, soul-sisters, on-point brothers, and supporters both near and far, I TRULY THANK YOU ALL FOR SUPPORTING ME AND MOTIVATING ME, but I have a problem. Over the last two weeks, Facebook has continually suggested that I pay to advertise my page. Well...to say it mildly, I declined. And as a result, my posts went from being seen by 3,500+ viewers daily to about 120 daily. So, if and when you remember, please stop by my page and show me some love. I post, at the very least, every other day. And whether they choose to hide me from you or incorporate me into your timelines, I'm still here putting the word out that real Love is Possible!!!!

Peace and Blessings FB Fam,
-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

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Just A Thought (We Need You):

1/17/2015

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Why is it that a man fails to grasp and recognize the goodness of a real woman until after he loses her? Why can't he appreciate her love for what it is when he is approached with it, and be less impressed with life’s illusions? Why is he willing to lose—himself; his pride, his dignity, and his self-respect—for an opportunity to invest in everything wrong for him, when what's right for him is often staring him in the face? It bothers me that most "men" have to graduate from the depths of depression, hopelessness, listlessness, and whoredom to love us wholly. #WTF!!! #Man...#ListenUp, #ManUp, and#GrowUp. Women don't need you to show up after you're used up or fed up;#WeNeedYouNow!!!!

-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

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Just A Thought (Discernment):

1/16/2015

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Ladies, #PleaseUseIt. You'll end up with a broken heart, a bitter spirit, a bruised ego, a bare bank account, or a baby he doesn't want if you don't.#BelieveIt

-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

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Just A Thought (Reasons):

1/14/2015

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Ladies, believe me when I tell you: THERE'S NO REWARD IN LOVING HIM GREATLY, UNLESS HE'S WILLING TO LOVE YOU BACK THAT WAY. There is no glory or acclaim that will come from putting your heart and soul into a man who could care less about your presence. And at this stage in the game, cookies, stickers, or a hug from your mama won't make the pain go away. We hear over and over again that we don’t give to receive, and that love is love’s reward. But if we’re dumb enough to love a man wholeheartedly without ever having been convinced of any reason to; without as much as an inkling that he feels the same, there will be no one else around to blame but ourselves, no other tears to dry but our own, and no other heart to mend but the one we’ve allowed him to break. #ThinkTwice. #ChooseWisely. #‎GuardYourHeartUntilTheCoastIsClear‬

-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

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Just A Thought (Fact vs. Fiction):

1/13/2015

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Every man isn't right for you. He may look good beside you and feel good inside you, but when it comes down to actually "being" with you, who is he? There are many men who'll chase you, but not many who will cherish you. There are more than a few who'll rap to you, but even fewer who'll ride for you. The idea of you may sound nice to him, but can he handle the woman you are? With that said, remember that: "Many people love the idea of you, but lack the maturity to handle the reality of you."#IfYouDontKnowNowYouKnow #KnowWhoYoureInTheRoomWith!!!

-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

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Just A Thought (Yeah Right):

1/12/2015

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We’ve willingly adopted mental disorders, stupidity, and dumb-as-fuckitis, trying to capture the attention of grown ass boys. We’ve become gold diggers, sex toys, trophy wives, and arm candy, just to have a piece of them; just to have the privilege of touching them, when in reality, they should be “fighting” for the honor of loving us. Ladies [‪#‎SMH‬], we have made this too easy for them; way too easy for them. And for what; the opportunity to be treated like napkins? [‪#‎YeahRight‬!!] If there is a man around, he’d better be a good man; a stable man, and an appreciative man, not simply someone to help us pass the time until we get so fed up that we’re forced to look elsewhere.

-Kanika A. Vann
Author, Love: Possible

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I, Kanika Vann (writer, author, editor, journalist, poet, publisher, and love enthusiast), created Love: Possible© with the intent to help save my sisters from the unnecessary pain that accompanies the acceptance of confusion, dysfunction, and disrespect in our romantic relationships, but not without calling special attention to our most valuable relationship—the one we have with ourselves.

Subsequently, both my book and my website seek to help salvage our realistic expectations and eliminate our unrealistic beliefs. With these words, I aim to transform misconception into certainty, and disillusion into faith, in hopes that you'll each come to recognize who you are, what you are, and what you deserve.

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