Appreciaton
I initially wrote this book to offer my advice, but to an extent, I exposed many of my secrets, not to mention, the depths of my own vulnerability. And in my revelations, I openly and aggressively promote every (ready) woman's need to appreciate and hold onto a worthy man.
We know that good men and loving relationships are hard to come by. So if and when you find a man (and relationship) that is worthwhile, you must take the time to guard it and take care of it. If your man has worked hard to gain your trust; has proven his love for you and his devotion to you, he deserves your submission (I didn't say subservience; be careful), he deserves your respect, he deserves your gratitude; he deserves nothing less than your best. In layman's terms: APPRECIATE HIM! And if you know like I know, you've figured out that gratitude begets happiness, reciprocity, and even more gratitude.
Ladies, I want nothing more than for each of you to be happier in your relationships and more realistic in your expectations of them. And for many of us, the only thing hindering the growth of those relationships (current or potential) is us―in our bitterness, our selfishness and our distrust, in our blindness and in our power struggles. And each of these blocks our ability to be grateful for what stands right in front of us.
I know how much love affects who we are. And like you, I've experienced the hold that it has over us, and the happiness that it overwhelmingly brings us. And when a man provokes such emotions, why not show him how lucky you feel to have him?
To say that I value love would be an understatement, so it should be of no surprise to anyone reading these words, that I think the world would be a much happier place if we all knew real love. Unfortunately, many of us are bitter because we're without love, either because it was involuntarily snatched from our grasp or we took it for granted when we had it, and now we don't. Consequently, I'm pleading for each of you to appreciate your love experience; appreciate what so many of us hope for but are never able to earnestly find. Appreciate what you could lose at any moment, what you'd be devastated to be without.
Now, I hope, he too, has ways to show what you mean to him (if not, it's time to have "that" talk). But I'm not writing a book on how to be a man to your woman, so I won't speak on that (right now—lol).
But what I do know for certain is that in every facet of life, we want to feel appreciated. At work, we get bonuses or raises. At school, we get promotions and/or graduations (although it was a lot more fun when we were little and got stickers and pizza parties). In sports, we get nicknames and reputations, and in relationships (romantic or otherwise), we get titles and privileges. So it's time to show your appreciation by giving him all he could dream of and ever want (when he proves he's worthy of it). Just take the time to invest a little in his happiness, if you haven't already. You just may be surprised to find what he's willing to give in return.
Again, every chapter doesn't apply to every woman. But for those who need to hear this, trust that your appreciation of him will blow his mind and make him love you that much more. And if it doesn't, well, I guess it's time to open your eyes and recognize that he likely wants to be elsewhere anyway (or is unable to satisfy your needs and love you in a way that pleases you, in which case, it's time to leave him be).
*And for the men reading this, I'm trying to help you out, so do me a favor and love her as greatly as possible.
We know that good men and loving relationships are hard to come by. So if and when you find a man (and relationship) that is worthwhile, you must take the time to guard it and take care of it. If your man has worked hard to gain your trust; has proven his love for you and his devotion to you, he deserves your submission (I didn't say subservience; be careful), he deserves your respect, he deserves your gratitude; he deserves nothing less than your best. In layman's terms: APPRECIATE HIM! And if you know like I know, you've figured out that gratitude begets happiness, reciprocity, and even more gratitude.
Ladies, I want nothing more than for each of you to be happier in your relationships and more realistic in your expectations of them. And for many of us, the only thing hindering the growth of those relationships (current or potential) is us―in our bitterness, our selfishness and our distrust, in our blindness and in our power struggles. And each of these blocks our ability to be grateful for what stands right in front of us.
I know how much love affects who we are. And like you, I've experienced the hold that it has over us, and the happiness that it overwhelmingly brings us. And when a man provokes such emotions, why not show him how lucky you feel to have him?
To say that I value love would be an understatement, so it should be of no surprise to anyone reading these words, that I think the world would be a much happier place if we all knew real love. Unfortunately, many of us are bitter because we're without love, either because it was involuntarily snatched from our grasp or we took it for granted when we had it, and now we don't. Consequently, I'm pleading for each of you to appreciate your love experience; appreciate what so many of us hope for but are never able to earnestly find. Appreciate what you could lose at any moment, what you'd be devastated to be without.
Now, I hope, he too, has ways to show what you mean to him (if not, it's time to have "that" talk). But I'm not writing a book on how to be a man to your woman, so I won't speak on that (right now—lol).
But what I do know for certain is that in every facet of life, we want to feel appreciated. At work, we get bonuses or raises. At school, we get promotions and/or graduations (although it was a lot more fun when we were little and got stickers and pizza parties). In sports, we get nicknames and reputations, and in relationships (romantic or otherwise), we get titles and privileges. So it's time to show your appreciation by giving him all he could dream of and ever want (when he proves he's worthy of it). Just take the time to invest a little in his happiness, if you haven't already. You just may be surprised to find what he's willing to give in return.
Again, every chapter doesn't apply to every woman. But for those who need to hear this, trust that your appreciation of him will blow his mind and make him love you that much more. And if it doesn't, well, I guess it's time to open your eyes and recognize that he likely wants to be elsewhere anyway (or is unable to satisfy your needs and love you in a way that pleases you, in which case, it's time to leave him be).
*And for the men reading this, I'm trying to help you out, so do me a favor and love her as greatly as possible.